It all depends on how the relationship is going and how much alone time versus together time works for both people. I'm always wary of hard and fast rules, because there are always exceptions. Eventually if this progresses i would like to see him twice a week if possible, but i know that would just have to come with time. Once I realized that, I was comfortable to relax and enjoy the huge amount of time that we spend together. When we a guy and I were serious we would see each other almost daily and definitely spoke at least once a day.
Deciding not to talk every day might help you both retain some boundaries that are important for the following reasons. We never know if that is a good idea or if we should hold back and act like we aren't champing at the bit to discover everything that we can about the other person. So for the first six to eight months of our relationship, we saw each other about once a week, and at first it used to drive me crazy. The easiest way to fake compatibility is to come on strong, quickly. I think if you looked at all of my dating history, excluding the one woman I lived with, I averaged something like 3-4 days a week with my partner if I was in a relationship, and 1-2 days with someone if we were still in that early dating phase. Once he decided he was in love with me, suddenly he's texting me all day and calling me twice a day. We'll just talk the next time we see each other, which will likely be in a day or two.
I met a great guy and we saw each other once a week and talked regularly whether text, email, or phone for three weeks straight. You get to see each other too much and to some extent, due to that, the relationship dulls. Because he moved to effing Colorado. He would initiate phone and email and texting was initiated equally. You feel this sense of excitement because the both of you had so much fun the last time you saw each other. I know some people are afraid to come off as too interested, and some people genuinely just like having time to themselves.
This man was completely different than any that I'd ever met before. That's why the best way to approach this situation is to have an open discussion with your partner about how often you'd both ideally like to spend the night together. I'm going to speak to him this week and let him know how I'm feeling on the off chance that he is trying to take it slow. He even told me he wasn't worried what anyone thought of us dating. If I felt lukewarm about someone and he wasn't really stepping up in the ways I'd like him to, I'd seek the excitement elsewhere. This experience has helped me to realize that there actually isn't such a thing as too much when it comes to how much time you spend with the person that you're dating, if that person is the right person. Now that everyone has big jobs and kids you are lucky to get together once a week.
Ditching your friends for your new love interest. For example, tonight I had to cancel driving 40 miles to see my girl due to circumstances involving my children and ex, so I only got to see her once this week. I'd say once a week dates is a good start for 5 weeks. I stopped seeing him after just 6 weeks because I was constantly telling him I needed space. If he wants it to grow into something more though, a committed relationship, it's every day for me.
The fact that she works 6 days a week does indicate that she has developed an independent streak and a routine. I'm the same way as you—I like to get a constant stream of attention if I'm dating a guy, but also I think that can be a bit unrealistic. About 2 years ago we ran into each other and swapped numbers. We do video chat almost every night before bed. You don't need to talk to the person you're dating every day to remind yourself of your direction. I've had relationships where we saw each other every day, and I've had some where we only saw each other twice a month or something. Weirdly enough, it was one of the best dates that I've ever had.
Wow you are so lucky that your man does that for you. I have a friend who recently got involved with someone who they see everyday. Hell, I am not in it to be stressed. I would feel the same way that if a guy doesn't text me a lot then I'm not on his mind. It's kind of a pain in the butt to have a surprise 3rd roommate who contributes nothing but feels totally at home. I took my time getting to know him. Doing too much too soon can put a strain on your relationship if one or both people feel like they've lost all personal time and space.
I'm just not the type to smother a girl, because I don't like that. I think sometimes we just assume that someone will know how we want to be communicated with, but that's not always true. The only exception was the guy I talked about above. I've never dated a woman who would have been ok with only seeing me one or two nights each week. All stress does is age us and create poor health.