You just don't want the kids to realize how much you resent him. You guys sound like you have a great and committed relationship - a true jewel in this world! We have 2 school age children. What do you do while they are away? He is always going to be the vulnerable, tired, needy one in our relationship and I don't feel like a doormat for being the one who provides that support and love to him anymore. But there also are alot of committed hardworking men who take on a hard job and do their best to juggle work and family. We are long distance, and it is hard, because when we are together I spend much of time alone waiting for him to come back from the hospital.
Im a 19 year old female who is pre med at a university right now. But i too am afraid to endure this. He might be a doc by day but when he's not at the hospital he's a regular guy just like anyone else. I had to remind myself often that this is the life that we chose together, despite all of the possible heartaches that could come with it. Am I sure I can handle the lifestyle? We still joke about the latter. I believe that marriage and kids is not something that can't be handled, I'm sure that once kids arrive somehow both parents will do whatever it takes to be there for the kids, however I'm also sure that you will be the one most likely to carry the weight a bit more and of course feel it too.
The most important thing is, that, getting along with your partner doesn't depend on your professions but your level of understanding and maturity. Juggle them with a working wife, a housewife with children and things become difficult. A doctor vacationing on the Riviera met an old lawyer friend and asked him what he was doing there. We try to resolve disagreements immediately, and always with honesty. I can't quite put my finger on it.
Hi, I am so glad to know that I am not alone. For the majority of women out there, to find rich men to date or to marry can be an enormous task to do. He is toning down his opinions and ocd ways a little, to be fair to him, I try to ignore the strong opinions, and him rearranging things. When I was teaching school, I use to shake my head at some of my students that thought all teachers just lived at the school and slept in the office, changed clothes in the copy room, and never left the classrooms. So, I'm in a relationship with a 3rd year med student and we are trying to find a date to get married. O'Leary's cow that started the Chicago fire, and that every time he started to go to sleep, he started to have a fireman's worst nightmare, that of burning to death. .
I look forward to reading more. Anyways, good luck, I hope it works out. Meanwhile, he'll be adored and revered and flirted with by divorced nurses who would jump in the sack with him at a moment's notice. I hope to be able to love nurses as I once did for many years. I am one to really like my space and opportunity to do my own thing and little projects. Did things right and got married.
Have any of you wives found the same thing? I always felt guilty for feeling bored, depressed or anxious about spending so much time apart from him, but thanks all, for making me realize that I am not alone! Its been over a year and I don't know what to do? I say no, and you are in charge of your own! My husband has amazing goals, accomplishments, responsibilities. I have constantly been on the go for the last six years, but the experiences I have had and the rewards for this grueling schedule are far beyond anything I imagined at the outset of this adventure. She told the physician that her husband had developed a penchant for anal sex, and she wasn't sure it was such a good idea. Take care of him more than I should be taken cared of. Hi, like others I've read a lot of the posts but still have a few questions. He's just wrapping up his first year.
On top of his work schedule, there are other demands on his time like his family and friends. I was shocked how much the stress, lack of sleep, etc. Last year I trained for and ran a marathon, which was a pretty good distraction, but with the move recently and work being quieter than usual I'm finding it tougher than I have before. I was convinced that if I didn't move to be with him we would never have a shot at a real relationship because his training would take so long - residency! I hope that you have left him at this point, and that you are happy. I realize my situation is less about marriage, and more about dating, but any advice would be greatly appreciated.
We did things differently this time around, especially now with some maturity and perspective. While I admire his dedication, his focus and intelligence, it has been extremely hard on me. I moved out of sate to be with him. Where do you think lawyers come from? He also wants to have kids soon since I am already 40. So, kudos to you for having such a wonderful relationship for so long and getting through step 1 and 2 and matching! Keep your power, girls, and keep the marriage egalitarian. He has lived alone forever and now we are living together, engaged, and of course, I have moved to another state to be with him. Its interesting to read all the doctor wife's comments and experiences.
Maybe that is why I am grouchy and can't cheer when my husband becomes a director for yet another board at the hospital? Though I am yet to see if we would make it. I had to lobby and cry alot so I could bring my dog up, I am not sure how that will go because dogs have hair, need to go out, and the house might get messed up. He isn't in school and doesn't have much idea about what it is like to be in my shoes. He turned and gave the man a stern look, and the kneading stopped. Communication is crucial, and even if we don't see each other for several days at a time, it's important to be on the same page.
Their conversation was constantly interrupted by people describing their ailments and asking the doctor for free medical advice. For those who are contemplating dating with them, there are a few doctor dating tips to keep in mind. In response to your comment about being with that creative director think all relationships have problems! This attitude eliminates a lot of issues stemming from unmet expectations and disappointment. You guys have very thick skin. It makes it hard to plan any sort of date.