Communication will not be on his list of skills, he would rather make a joke of things and move on to a lighter topic quickly. They tend to ruin the moments in your life that were supposed to be important and fun. I am going to start using the word religious instead of spiritual because they are not necessarily the same thing. That's pretty much the case with your boyfriend. Your future husband seems to have great qualities, at least you are pleased with them which is the most important part. At the same time, this guy has no desire to find a steady job either.
Being unable to hold down a job. Getting anything done is going to be slow and difficult and at great risk. He can encourage regular family worship, encourage membership and deep involvement in a good church which one or both of the couple should be attending even before the marriage , be deliberate about being discipled by a more mature man, seeking advice about good books for both of you to read, and more. According to a Reader's Digest article that I read years ago, these are the top five reasons for divorce in order of predominance. He upgrades his flat screen if his friend buys a bigger and better one. It appears your mother grew up in a home where her mother was more religious.
You may want something a hell of a lot different for your future than he does. The main thing you need to understand about them is that they never understand. There is only one issue that concerns me and that is his level of spiritual maturity. But, you have to be very observant when pointing out this type of man; because, he comes in various forms. Never accepts mistakes Instead, he resorts to pointing fingers at everybody.
But challenge, encouragement, instruction in something the wife knows more about — all this can and should happen in a home where the husband is still the overall spiritual leader. . It makes him stronger when committing to a single person and being faithful. He can't make himself a proper meal Immature men can't cook for themselves. Other immature hobbies include petty acts of vandalism, roughhousing with friends and making malicious jokes about people he knows. That says something if you look at honest truth. Immature man hates being depended on One of the most obvious signs of an immature man is that he absolutely dislikes being depended on.
That is perhaps underscored by the divorce rate in the Christian church. Then if you are still in agreement after the counseling and the counselor agrees that you should marry, then marry him. They always find a way to break promises, even the smallest ones. This is the type of spiritual maturity that I believe should cause the most hesitation in dating. I would not normally encourage a situation in which a wife is consistently discipling her husband in Christian basics, and as I wrote above, the husband will necessarily set the basic spiritual tone for the home for better or worse.
The disciples of Jesus were perhaps some of the most devoted and sacrificial men of history. Being mean to those who are trying to help is a major sign of immaturity and a lack of empathy. Pexels Children love the idea of having junk food all day, every day. A sure sign of immaturity is a messy home. When deep issues arise, does he make a joke, change the topic, look at his phone and ignore you, or turn the tables and blame you? You may be dragged down or the less spiritually mature person may get frustrated that he or she cannot keep up.
This thinking is faulty, however, because it implies that God has called a husband to lead his wife because he is smarter or knows more about the Bible. Whatever it is, they will lie about it. He loves to show his irritation with passive-aggressiveness Immature men love to be passive-aggressive. Instead, he resorts to pointing the finger at everyone else. Yes, spouses should strive to make each oher happy, but there comes some times you should find your own ways to make yourself happy. He has no interest in earning any type of degree. With all that said, some caution is in order.
You may feel agitated when you find him only thinking about himself and not about anyone else. What do you expect when you're dating an overgrown child? If not, it could be a big sign of immaturity. The crying baby cannot be told that the milk is warming and should be ready in a few minutes. If you want to keep your sanity, stay away from those men. Starting a career in teaching is probably not exactly what you had in mind when you met him. Healthy and successful relationships are built on communication, which enables emotional intimacy.
Even grown men can be ridiculously immature and sometimes it makes things much harder for you. They constantly blame you, leading you to feel like shit. Most questions I get about the above type of spiritual maturity are from concerned Christian women regarding Christian guys they are dating. The only thing that might make him mature is time and experience. Of the super religious women that I know, over half of them have unsatisfactory marriages or husbands that would not stay with them.