Even if she was being judgmental, to hide it from her for a year is ridiculous. I get the sense you are allowing her to move in with you in an attempt to strengthen the relationship. As for moving in together — how could that in anyway be a good idea? What would you recommend doing if you were in this situation? Long ago my brother dated my old bestie. Maybe they felt awkward telling her? Even though I took her side, it still made me a little sick to my stomach. Finally they pull themselves together and spill it. Make sure the guy in question actually likes you as much as you like him.
Please note that by submitting your question to Petra, you are giving your permission for her to use your question as the basis of her next column, published online at Wonder Women. Leaving for a date always involved the sister grilling me for details. Living with a good friend can be hard enough, but a good friend that you already have problems with? Also, I feel like I'm being replaced. Let them be and maybe point out to your buddy that you'd like to hang out more often just the two of you. We are both attractive, and good-hearted people so it was only expected that our friends would find the other sibling of possible interest. I would be totally stoked if my brother got together with a good friend of mine. Resentful would be a word I could relate to more than jealous.
She can be rather manipulative at times, and twist things so she can believe that the problem is not her fault. Who do you think matters to him more? For example, it might have started small. It came to the point where my brother became very jealous and stopped inviting his friends over. Formerly we happily hid away on weekends ordering in food, watching movies, and adoring my dog, Otto. Writing about how you feel could be a useful outlet, remembering these very strong feelings may subside as you get used to the situation. He also has a girlfriend I not quite sure what to do? If she doesn't, then maybe the friendship wasn't ever really true and it's time for you to move on. However, I think Wendy is being too harsh.
In fact, if my sister had a lot more hobbies, interests, friends, etc. I know their relationship is none of my business, and if they end up happy together this time around, then more power to them. When joey's girlfriend has gone down in the two go for it happened to your situation. I'm straight, and my best friend of 12 years came out about a year ago. If they stay together this may strengthen the relationship you all have. You state in your letter how you care for them both. Maybe if you pull him aside and tell him how much you really like him, he might respect that and be okay with it.
Both her brother and her friend decided not to tell her. In another recent thread I gave advice about recalibrating a relationship. Given the sensitivity of this topic, I never discuss it with her. If any of this is true, then how can you blame her for wanting to protect her privacy by keeping this relationship from you? If you decide to date the guy anyway, keep your friend out of your relationship. I love them both and I want them to be happy but since they started dating I can't help but feel a little weird. I tried to be supportive as possible and stuff, and he feels really comfortable with his sexuality now, but when my brother came out a month ago, they started spending lots of time together.
Make her feel how important she is to you. I mean, they had a lot in common, and not to mention, how cool would it be if my best friend became my sister-in-law? Leave her alone, and let them come to you if they decide to. It's different, but it's not bad. You need to talk to your brother and establish rules about this sort of thing in the future. It may be too much pressure for him to try and date a friend's sister because, well, what if you have sex and then he decides that is as far as he wants to go.
Instead of rushing to break them up, try to have a chat with your best friend. Should our reader is my best friend's brother and connecting with a certain rules in. Says This actually made me laugh. It works for relationships with everyone — significant others, family, co-workers. For whatever reason, you see them and what they share together as some sort of extension of your relationships with each of them, and this extension has given you the idea that you have a say in what happens between them. One thing my girls and I did growing up was talk about the boys we liked, dated, kissed, hated, and then kicked to the curb.
In high school, I dated two of my brothers friends. I understand why it would bother him but I can't seem to get this guy out of my head. Then, about two years ago, they went through a rather nasty break-up after five years together. . One was my first kiss, and my first real boyfriend.
Without her input unless specifically requested. I still laugh thinking about that comment. I would be hurt if the same thing happened to me. What was your relationship like with her during the 4 years that you knew about them being together? Maybe one day in the future you will have the opportunity to pursue your emotions, but until then, keep it to yourself. More likely, it will do the exact opposite! So yeah I hide stuff out of fear for me and protection for him. Frame this in a context of being happy for them but having some worries about how you feel.
Handle it in a mature, discreet way so that all parties can remain friendly afterwards. End of that friendship, never to hear from her again. Please help shine some light on a confusing situation : Thank you so much! I say go with your gut, if you like him, talk to your friend and go for it. In the end, my brother stopped being friends with him. Yeah, I have to agree with Wendy.